Last month, I shared a very powerful process for unravelling our patterns. These are the deepest, darkest beliefs we formed about ourselves in our childhood, which drive our behaviour within the matrix. But they do more than that. Our patterns work like a magnet to attract into our field everything that resonates with that pattern. That’s why someone who had abuse in their childhood will often attract similar abusive situations and relationships as an adult – whether that’s a boss who bullies them, or a partner who uses violence to control the relationship. This repeating of patterns validates every belief we formed about ourselves. It also reinforces those early decisions we made about how to survive in the world that we...
I was enjoying a beach walk last week, and I began thinking about the topic of scars. We show our age in many different ways, but one of them is through the accumulation of life’s scars.These scars can be physical or emotional, raw or (mostly) healed.My left hand bears a scar from when a dog bit me as a child. I never really think of it, but it sits there as a signpost to a trauma I went through when I was 6 years of age. At the time, it was significant.But as the years have rolled by, it’s receded into the background of my memory, until it’s barely noticeable (physically and emotionally). When I was 28, I was married...
A timeless classic, The Road Less Travelled is a landmark work that has inspired millions of us around the world. It definitely inspired me. When I first read it, I knew that I was indeed on the “road less travelled”, and was never destined to live an “ordinary” life. Drawing on the experiences of his career as a psychiatrist, the author M. Scott Peck combines both scientific and spiritual views to guide us through the difficult, painful times in life by showing us how to confront our problems through the principles of discipline, love and grace. Intuitively pick a number between 1 and 9, to see which inspirational saying and oil blend is choosing you today: 1. Life is difficult. This is a great truth, one of the greatest truths.It is a great...
What happens when you are triggered by something that another person has said or done? In our last two blogs, I explored emotions that overwhelm, and also our day-to-day yin/yang of emotions. Our emotions are such a gift to us, when we know how to work with them effectively. That means being able to (a) recognise that we’re triggered; (b) swim in the emotional tension rather than immediately reacting, and (c) take a step back and ask for a fresh perspective. Yet sometimes when we step back and ask for a fresh perspective, we may feel like no one is listening. We’re still too caught in our pain to be able to achieve that level of transformation. When that happens, there’s...
There are times we all need a helping hand, when our emotions become so overwhelming that we feel like we can’t get our head above water. That was the topic of my last blog, and I shared two simple tips for how to rise above intense emotional turmoil, so we can make clear decisions. This week, I want to explore the yin-yang flow of our everyday emotional journey. What does our relationship with our emotions ideally look like, as we start to heal our emotional wounds? Let’s begin with the analogy I used in my last blog. We all have this stunning crystalline aura, yet embedded in its surface are lumps of necrotic pus-oozing tissue. This is in stark contrast...
